‘Please be kind to those pouring their hearts out’: Chrissy Teigen opens up about her pregnancy loss

Chrissy Teigen arrives at the Vanity Fair Oscar Party on Sunday, Feb. 9, 2020, in Beverly Hills, Calif. Teigen recently opened up about her experience with pregnancy loss. | Evan Agostini/Invision/AP

“I beg you to please share your stories and to please be kind to those pouring their hearts out,” Teigen wrote in a Medium post on Tuesday, in which she shared her experience with pregnancy loss. “Be kind in general, as some won’t pour them out at all.”

Chrissy Teigen is opening up about her experience with pregnancy loss nearly a month after she and husband John Legend lost their son Jack.

Teigen shared more about her experience and grief, thanked friends and fans for their support, and encouraged others to open up about challenging experiences in a post that she shared on Medium on Tuesday. (Warning: The Medium post contains some mature language).

On Sept. 30, Teigen and Legend shared their loss on social media, writing that they “were in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we’ve never felt before.”

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We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we’ve never felt before. We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It just wasn’t enough. . . We never decide on our babies’ names until the last possible moment after they’re born, just before we leave the hospital. But we, for some reason, had started to call this little guy in my belly Jack. So he will always be Jack to us. Jack worked so hard to be a part of our little family, and he will be, forever. . . To our Jack - I’m so sorry that the first few moments of your life were met with so many complications, that we couldn’t give you the home you needed to survive. We will always love you. . . Thank you to everyone who has been sending us positive energy, thoughts and prayers. We feel all of your love and truly appreciate you. . . We are so grateful for the life we have, for our wonderful babies Luna and Miles, for all the amazing things we’ve been able to experience. But everyday can’t be full of sunshine. On this darkest of days, we will grieve, we will cry our eyes out. But we will hug and love each other harder and get through it.

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In the Medium post, Teigen wrote that she had been diagnosed with a partial placenta abruption, which led to her doctors placing her on bed rest early on, according to NBC News.

But Teigen continued to experience heavy bleeding, leading her to go to the hospital and receive “bags of blood transfusions,” NBC reported. However, the transfusions didn’t seem to be doing enough.

“After a couple nights at the hospital, my doctor told me exactly what I knew was coming — it was time to say goodbye,” Teigen wrote on Medium. “He just wouldn’t survive this, and if it went on any longer, I might not either.”

Teigen wrote about the experience of saying goodbye after delivering the baby at 20 weeks, with Legend and her mother both present, according to The New York Times.

“I’m not sure I’ll ever forget the experience,” she wrote.

Teigen experienced some criticism after sharing photos from the hospital on social media. She addressed those criticisms in the Medium essay, saying that she asked Legend to take the photos because she “needed to know of this moment forever,” according to CBS News.

“I cannot express how little I care that you hate the photos,” wrote Teigen. “How little I care that it’s something you wouldn’t have done. I lived it, I chose to do it, and more than anything, these photos aren’t for anyone but the people who have lived this or are curious enough to wonder what something like this is like. These photos are only for the people who need them. The thoughts of others do not matter to me.”

Teigen encouraged others to share their experiences of loss, as well, and has used the experience to bring awareness to pregnancy loss and stillbirth.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report that 1 in 100 pregnancies that have reached the 20-week mark are affected by stillbirth, according to the Times.

“I beg you to please share your stories and to please be kind to those pouring their hearts out,” Teigen wrote. “Be kind in general, as some won’t pour them out at all.”

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